Feel that your relationship isn't quite as ideal as you would like, yet you feel it's worth saving? Well don't worry as surveys have suggested that at least 80% of couples experience this similar feeling at some point during their 
relationships. It's perfectly natural and your relationship may not even be in need of saving just yet. Even the most loved up of couples have had doubts at some point. However, I am going to outline several ways to save your relationship once strains do appear.A vital part of any relationship is the "attraction". Attraction to your partner is vital since it helps to prevent the main cause of break-ups which is infidelity. Think about how you looked when you first met your partner and ask yourself if you are more or less attractive then when you first met. If you feel you are less attractive then there is still a lot you can do to keep yourself looking good. Get down to a gym, do some cardio work, eat better, clean yourself more regularly. Most importantly make sure you maintain yourself to a high standard. You will feel better for it and so will your partner.
Communication is extremely key. Most arguments begin after some sort of breakdown in communication somewhere along the line. It's important that you and your partner regularly talk about things which may be causing a strain. Leaving things bottled up will only cause the arguments to be much worse once it starts. Make time with your partner on a weekday evening like a Monday to hold a "family meeting" where grievances are aired. You will be surprised to find that after a few weeks of doing this you might not even need to do it anymore as your communication will have improved all round.
Learning to forgive is something you will have to do in most relationships. Obviously there are some things which are unforgivable; however you will be surprised how often really small and irrelevant things are held as grudges between one and another. Everyone makes mistakes and you will make mistakes also. Think about what your partner did that you are angry about and ask yourself if it's really that important in the long run.
This brings me on to probably the most important thing about any relationship and that is "Trust". Once the trust has gone in a relationship, it is safe to say things are irretrievable. Ask yourself if you still trust your partner. If the answer is no then I am afraid to say that it's very hard to rebuild trust into a relationship. The best thing to do would be to have a long talk about how you feel and end the relationship mutually before you end up hating each other and yourself.
Making a relationship work is not easy and it might event take professional help to get through your sticky patch, however by working on some of the things I have listed above you wont go far wrong.
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